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Summer: When the Kids are Home and Moms Go Crazy!

Help With The Feelings of Summer

School summer vacation has an immense undercurrent to it these days.  Below the surface of the joy that the children feel about summer vacation from school, there exists a hint of angst when parents think about children being home in summer.  It is rare though when a parent openly shares their negative feelings of shame and guilt associated with children being home. There is less structure, less mom time, and less money available because food, entertainment, camp, and vacation expenses go up. Moms, in particular, feel more guilt and shame over not being able to be the fantastic mom portrayed in social media. Therefore, they find it difficult to focus on the positive aspects of connecting with their children and find summer to be a struggle. Two conflicting emotions are colliding! However, God desires to empower us in all the losses and negative feelings we experience during this season.  We love our children; however, we may need some assistance in processing our feelings of guilt, shame, inadequacy, and powerlessness that get stirred by the summer break. Join host Sharon Wegman and her guest host Jesukah Beachy (mom of four girls) as they discuss how to bring empowerment to the negative feelings tied to summer break.

News that Triggers Us.

How I react when I read or watch the news can trigger internal reactions that create sudden departures in my mood. One moment I am feeling fine and the next moment I am upset. For some individuals, news can actually trigger trauma reactions because of unresolved trauma in their pasts. Take me for example; I do not like watching movies that contain psychotic behavior involving individuals who harm others. Why? Because it triggers the same feelings in me that I experience when walking people out of their traumatic past. None of us enjoy seeing people suffer and yet, there is this macabre fascination with the pain of others and/or reading about crazy behavior. Sometimes it makes us feel more “normal” instead of prompting us to work on our issues. However, just because it triggers emotions in you of fascination does not mean you are supposed to feed that fascination. Many times the trigger emotion from your past causes you to consume things that in the long run, are not going to produce good results or fruit in your life. Going through your facebook news feed, you can be easily tempted to read one crazy story after another. But to what end? How will it help you? How will it develop you further as a person? The next time you are going through the news or your Facebook feed, make a conscious choice to not read the things that will serve no purpose in your life no matter how tempting they may be. It may just be that the desire to read that story is more about trauma fascination than it is about healing and wholesomeness. Philippians 4:8-9The Message (MSG) 8-9 Summing it all up, friends, I’d say you’ll do best by filling your minds and meditating on things true, noble, reputable, authentic, compelling, gracious—the best, not the worst; the beautiful, not the ugly; things to praise, not things to curse. Put into practice what you learned from me, what you heard and saw and realized. Do that, and God, who makes everything work together, will work you into his most excellent harmonies.