Do you know anyone who spends a lot of time reminiscing about how good things were in the past instead of creating good in the present? We tend to skew our perception of reality when we long for things of the past to be in the present. Rarely can old ways be contained in our new reality because in order for things of old to be part of our new present reality, those things/people of old have to become new, too.
Jesus said it this way in Matthew 9: 17, “Neither is new wine put into old wineskins. If it is, the skins burst and the wine is spilled and the skins are destroyed. But new wine is put into fresh wineskins, and so both are preserved.”
Stop looking behind you to see what people from your past are doing and start moving toward people who are in your present and your future. Just like Lot’s wife in the Bible who turned into a pillar of salt when she looked back at her former life, you, too, will become stuck and unmoving.