I’m currently in the midst of recovering from a severe shoulder injury. My injury creates an inability to move my arm above my head, to carry weight with the arm, and to do anything that would require the twisting of my arm. It’s been a hassle and frustration to deal with the loss of ability. However, I’m slowly learning to be more ambidextrous. I realize the number of times I can use the other arm to do the same thing that I’m used to doing with my primary arm. It’s fantastic to understand that I am capable of doing the same task with a different limb, and I’ve never done it that way before this point in time. The same can be true when we’ve had a significant loss in our life. Be it the death of a family member, a loss of a spouse, or change in a relationship, we think we know what we are capable of doing but many times we are capable of doing much more than we perceive because we’ve never done it that way before. Emotional ambidexterity (which is my made-up word) is my way of explaining that you are capable of doing something different and ,with practice, you will become skilled at doing it differently. At the moment I am talk typing because typing with my right arm is virtually impossible, and typing with my left arm is slowly progressing. How about you? Do you stop trying when what you’re used to doing things one way and that can no longer be done? Or do you try to learn new ways of doing what you used to do? It’s very empowering to think that we can do things differently when we force ourselves to learn new ways of doing things. The first time I did something with my left arm I felt a little proud of myself because I was learning how to develop a whole other part of my being that has been virtually unused. I have to remind myself always to use my left hand because the old way keeps kicking in and taking over and then the pain comes from doing it the old way. How about you? Are you learning how to use different emotional muscles than you used before this point in time? Even as I type with my left hand, I feel more powerful to be using a skill I never developed before today. You may be used to doing things one way, but the reality is you hold unlimited capability within you that has yet to be tapped from the inside! Keep reminding yourself to do it the new way, and soon you will find yourself skilled in areas you never knew you were skilled.