Posts Tagged ‘vulnerability’
Do You Stink?
Do You Stink? Recently the power went out in the building where I work and I wound up having to do three counseling sessions via candlelight that night. The candle lighting was subtle, however, the fumes from the five different candles were so overwhelming that they overpowered my sense of smell. I was so overcome…
Read MoreSummer: When the Kids are Home and Moms Go Crazy!
School summer vacation has an immense undercurrent to it these days. Below the surface of the joy that the children feel about summer vacation from school, there exists a hint of angst when parents think about children being home in summer. It is rare though when a parent openly shares their negative feelings of shame…
Read MoreRelationship Change is Exhausting and Invigorating – Just Like Moving.
Around this time last year I moved. It was exhausting and difficult, and every day I crawled in bed close to tears. Change is hard on so many levels and this is true in relationships as well as household changes. I was recently reflecting on how difficult it can be to change how you relate…
Read MoreSecret Garden
When I was a child, I loved to read and one of my favorite books (besides the Nancy Drew series) was “The Secret Garden” by Frances Hodgson Burnett. The story details all the discoveries of a girl when she moves in with distant relatives who she had never met. One of the main character’s discoveries…
Read MoreDo You Recognize Your Water Bottle?
Do you Recognize your Water Bottle? Most of us have perceived images of what a water bottle looks like; therefore, when water is presented in a different container we tend to not recognize it for what is in the container. The same can be true for life giving people in our lives. We have an…
Read MoreFive Phrases that will Bring You Greater Emotional Connection
In the world of counseling, we frequently discuss relationships and how to interact with people in positive ways. I regularly am directing people to learn new communication skills that promote positive emotional connections in their relationships. Learning a new way of how to speak to others is often like learning a foreign language. It takes…
Read MoreThe Paradox to Vulnerability
I was rude to several people yesterday while attending church. During the official greeting time of the church service, I refused to shake their hands. My rudeness was a really a desire to protect people from the head cold I have had for the last week. As I was greeting each person, instead of shaking…
Read MoreThree Tools to Help You Begin to be More Vulnerable with People in Conversation
1. Do not allow yourself to give a pat answer to a friend who is asking you how you are doing. This would include responses such as “fine”, “good” and ” fine, how are you?” Many people have been taught that polite conversation is appropriate in all situations. Yes, it is good manners in general…
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