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Pt. 2: Weaponized Incompetence

In a follow up to our episode on the mental load, licensed, professional counselors Sharon and Kayla discuss weaponized incompetence, and how that can be used in defense against sharing the mental load in a relationship. Weaponized incompetence occurs when someone attempts to not learn tasks, does them badly, or invalidates them to try and get out of doing them (whether intentionally or subconsciously). Like in an episode of Everybody Loves Raymond, Ray purposefully changes diapers badly so Deborah doesn’t ask him to do it again. For additional info, check out our blog post here, or follow us on Instagram @wholeselftherapists